Feb
12
2012

Orientalists or liars

In the Name of Allah the Most Gracious, the Most Merciful

Facts we should know:

First: the marriage of Prophet Muhammad (may peace and blessing be upon him) to Mrs. ‘Aisha was suggested by Khawla bint Hakim, three years after the death of Mrs. Khadija. This means that the Prophet lived alone. Married men know that the woman is very important for her husband and it is so hard for a man to lose his wife. Khawla suggested this marriage to emphasize the relationship with Sayyidina Abu Bakr, the most beloved man to the Prophet, and to add the strong bond of kinship.
Second; Lady ‘Aisha had been engaged before that to Jubair bin Al-Mut’am bin ‘Adi, so she was a mature female, and her engagement before Khawla’s suggestion proves this.
Third; Quraish, who were waiting for a mistake, or a fault by the Prophet (peace and blessing be upon him) to make people turn against him, were not surprised at the announcement of engagement between the Prophet and his best friend’s daughter. They rather received the news as something normal.
Fourth; Mrs. ‘Aisha (may Allah be pleased with her) was not the first nor the last young girl who married a man older than her. For example, Abd Al-Muttalib, who was an old man, married Hala, Amina’s cousin, when his youngest son Abdullah married Amina bint Wahab who was the same age as Hala. Also, our Master Umar bin Al-Khattab married the daughter of our master Ali bin Abi Talib and he was at the age of her grandfather.

Orientalists and the marriage of Prophet Muhammad to ‘Aisha:

A group of orientalists who came after more than 1400 year of that marriage ignore the differences of time and region and talk long in what they describe as the marriage of an old man to a child-bride, and evaluate with the eye of whim a marriage contract signed in Mecca before migration against what happens today in the West, where women usually don’t get married before the age of twenty five.
We should notice that in hot countries, girls grow up at a very young age, which is usually eight, while girls in some cold countries don’t get grown up till the age of twenty one.

Had the Prophet aimed to satisfy a desire, he would have married when he was young:

Had it been true that the Prophet, peace and blessings be upon him, aimed at fulfilling a lust or satisfying a desire, he would have done this while still in his youth when he was still free from the responsibilities of delivering Allah’s call. At his early age, the Prophet, peace and blessings be upon him, accepted to marry Khadija, may Allah be pleased with her, who was forty when he was twenty five.
If he was obsessed with women, he wouldn’t have been satisfied with that marriage for a long time until his wife Khadija (may Allah be pleased with her) died without marrying a new wife. Even after her passing away, who did he marry? He married Sawda bint Zam’a Al-‘Ameriya to console and relief her after her husband’s death. She was an old- aged widow who possessed no particular appealing qualities. This shows that the prophet’s marriage was for human, legislative and Islamic goals. This adds to our certainty that the Prophet, peace and blessings be upon him, had many great lofty aims behind his marriages.

The Prophet’s marriage to Mrs. ‘Aisha was to confirm the relation with his best friend:

The Prophet (peace and blessing be upon him) didn’t marry Mrs. ‘Aisha for desire, as he was fifty five then, and he was charged with the responsibilities of message of Islam which were so hard, so he couldn’t think of desire at that time. This marriage was to confirm the relation with his best friend (Abu Bakr) through kinship.
Also, when Khawlah bint Hakim suggested to him to marry `Aisha, the Prophet, peace and blessings be upon him, thought thoroughly whether to accept or to refuse. He took into consideration his relationship with Abu Bakr.
When ‘Aisha came to the Prophet’s house, Sawda gave her the first place and took care of her till her death. Afterwards, Mrs. ‘Aisha remained a faithful wife to the Prophet (peace and blessing be upon him). She learnt from him till she had great knowledge in Islamic rulings.
The Prophet’s love to ‘Aisha was a sign of his love to her father (may Allah be pleased with them).

When the Prophet (may Allah bless him and grant him peace) was asked about the dearest person to his heart, he said: ‘Aisha. And when he was asked about the dearest man to him he said: her father.

That is Mrs. ‘Aisha the Prophet’s favorite wife and the most beloved to him.
His marriage from her was not to satisfy a desire or to enjoy her as much as it was to honor Abu Bakr, give him special merit and honor her at the Prophet’s house.

Historical study to Ms. ‘Aisha’s age when she married the Prophet:

I will try to think aloud to try to conclude the age of the mother of believers ‘Aisha (may Allah be pleased with her) historically away from the historical vagueness imposed on us by those mindless people who say that when the Prophet was twenty five he married a fifteen years older woman and when he was fifty three he married a child-bride forty four years younger than him.
Historians said that ‘Aisha was engaged to Mut’am bin ‘Adi before she got engaged to the Prophet. The question to be asked her is: When did ‘Adi engaged her to his son? Historian sources mentioned nothing about that!!!
The first assumption is that he engaged her after revelation, which is unlikely because of the great antagonism of the disbelievers towards the believers, especially that ‘Aisha was the daughter of Abu Bakr Assiddiq, the Prophet’s best friend and one of the first believers. So it is unlikely that ‘Adi had proposed to one of the first believers to engage his daughter to his son.
The second assumption is that he engaged her before revelation. This assumption is more likely but it raises an important question: how old was she before revelation? One? Two? Five? Ten? History didn’t mention that either. Thus, we need to have some assumptions:
The first assumption: ‘Adi engaged her to his son Mut’am before revelation when she was fifteen for example. This assumption means that A’isha was 28 when the noble Prophet married her, as he married her after migration to Medina, and he had spent 15 years in Mecca before migration.
The second assumption: ‘Adi engaged her to his son before revelation when she was ten- for example. According to this assumption, A’isha was 23 when she got married to the noble Prophet.
The third assumption is that ‘Adi engaged her to his son before revelation when she was five- for example. According to this assumption, ‘Aisha was 18 when the Prophet married her.
The fourth assumption is that A’di engaged her to his son before revelation when she was one year old, which is improbable but let’s suggest this. According to this assumption, A’isha was 14 when the Prophet married her, that is, she was five years older that the age they mentioned.
I think that the Prophet wouldn’t marry a girl who is younger than his youngest daughter. If we know that Fatima was born five years before revelation, we know that she was 18 after migration to Medina. So I think it is more likely that ‘Aisha was older than Fatima, and so I think that she was 23 or 28.
We can say that ‘Aisha was at least 19 when she got married according to the sources we have.

Historical study and a wrong narration:

The “Middle East” magazine of London published on 6-9-2008 that a researcher and a historian was checking the information saying that Mrs. ‘Aisha’s was not nine when she got married to the Prophet (peace and blessing be upon him).
Dr. Suhaila Zain Al-‘Abideen Hammmad, the member in the committee of research and consultation at the national society of human rights, says that according to logic and equation of Mrs. ‘Aisha bint Abi Bakr Assiddiq in comparison to her sister Asmaa who was ten years older than her, and in comparison to a number of events, and the time of the Prophet’s immigration to Medina show that it is more likely that Mrs ‘Aisha got married when she was nineteen.
Asmaa was ten years older than ‘Aisha. This means that ‘Aisha was at least five before revelation. May be there was an error by the narrator in her narration that she was six when the Prophet proposed to her, he might have meant that she was six at the time of revelation. If we add 5-6 years which is her age at the time of revelation to 13 years which is the Meccan phase, her age in Al-Medina after migration would be 18-19.
Dr. Suhaila Hammad, the member of the international union of Islamic scholars pointed that, away from the saying that the Prophet (peace and blessing be upon him) married ‘Aisha when she was a child, and the facts that contradict it, we should take into consideration the change of time, the nature of response to human desires through ages, and the change of marriage standards in the current time.
By the way, I always say the narrators of hadith are certainly genius faithful scholars who loved their religion and Prophet greatly. However, this doesn’t mean that they are infallible. They might make mistakes or forget. They are really genius, but after all, they are human. I also used to say that they are like fishermen who throw their nets in the sea to catch fish, but the net, no matter how perfect it is, might lose some small fish. This doesn’t mean that we can or should attack the books of hadith or their collectors and raise suspicions about them as some people want, or we would achieve their aims and destroy a very important and precious part of our tradition that is essential for our lives.
Thinking that the men of hadith are infallible means that we consider them like Prophets, which is not allowed. Their books, despite of the great effort and faith, cannot be like the glorious Quran.
By the way, Dr. Shawqi Dhaif wrote in “Muhammad the last prophet” that ‘Aisha was 18 or 20 when she got married to the Prophet, depending on the same source of the young journalist (p,171, the edition of Dar Al- Ma’arif). Al-Aqqad said that her age was between 12 and 15 (see his book: The Siddiqa, daughter of the Siddiq/ Nahdhat Masr/2004/p48).
Anyway, Mrs. ‘Aisha’s ways of behavior in the Prophet’s house according to most narrations refer that she was a fully mature wife, not a young girl who didn’t know the house she was living in or the man she was married to. Moreover, she was so happy with her marriage to the Prophet (PBUH), and she considered it an honor for her.

Mrs. ‘Aisha’s love to the Prophet (PBUH):

Mrs. ‘Aisha loved the Prophet (PBUH) greatly and she was so jealous on him. Many ahadith refer to this great love and jealousy. For example, when the Prophet (PBUH) gave her the choice to stay with him and share him his hard situation or to go to her parents, and when he asked her to consult her parents about that, she refused that strongly as we all know. Also, she and the other mothers of believers committed themselves with love, faith and content with the Qur’an’s order that they couldn’t marry any other man after the Prophet’s death. What do they (those Orientalists) mean then by raising suspicions about this marriage that was based on love and happiness?

Questions and inquiries that need answers:

‘Aisha was engaged to one of the people of Mecca before being engaged to the Prophet. This means that she was at the age of engagement and marriage, at least according to the standards of Meccan society at that time, so why do those people raise doubts about this engagement, put their grudge on the Prophet, and raise false suspicions about his engagement to her?
Moreover, the woman who suggested this marriage to ‘Aisha was also from Mecca, this means that he didn’t think of her, and that it was not a man who suggested this marriage. This refers that she was, according to other women, at an age suitable for marriage.
Furthermore, we haven’t heard that Abu Bakr or Um Roman (Mrs. Aisha’s mother) said that the girl was young and not suitable for marriage. This confirms that she was mature enough to get married, at least according to the standards of that age at that time, and destroys the arguments of those people and those who support them.
The last thing is that Mary (Maryam) (PBUH), was 12, when her marriage to Yousuf Annajjar was supposed to be arranged, while Yousuf was an old man in his sixties or seventies as I remember according to the related narrations. Can we take this as a point to raise suspensions about her?

Praise be to Allah, the Lord of the Worlds

Translation :Maha Sulieman
Auditing :Rana Saraqbi

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